So, I just read an article on Slate about a break-up and the differences between men and women who want kids. You can read/listen yourself, but I do have some responses to the article and the video:
- I was really jealous of the lady for DECIDING she doesn’t want kids. How crazy is that? I watched her say, “I really really don’t” (and I believe her) and thought, “Oh, I so wish I felt that way.” I don’t know if that’s a healthy or unhealthy response, but that was what I felt. It’d be so, so much easier (and CHEAPER!) to just not want kids. Then, bam, 3 years of my life… back from the abyss of infertility.
- Secondly, wha? Only46% of women between ages of 21 and 34 want kids? What? That statistic seems so inherently wrong to me. I am just recently out of that category, but I can only think of one person in that category (not wanting kids) that I know. I have 2 friends (one age 35 and one 37) who don’t have kids — one is a lesbian and her partner is much younger (28? 29?) and in grad school, so they’re waiting, and the other is still single and wants to adopt when she gets married. So, is my experience THAT skewed? The friend I have who doesn’t want kids has never wanted them. Her mom had 6 (yes SIX) miscarriages before she was born, and she was born premature after her mom had been on bedrest for 20 weeks. So, I think she just decided at a young age not to go through any of that. Plus, she likes to travel and has one of those very controlled, scheduled lives that you can’t have with kids. Other than that, every single women I know either has kids or wants to have them.