Since I’ve started trying to get pregnant, I myself have found out that many a myth was exactly what the dictionary says it is: a story that someone just makes up, that has no real basis in reality.
When I started out, I thought, “my mom had three kids. The last was a surprise. I’ll have no problem.” No baby.
When it took a little longer, I thought it was because I have a cup of coffee in the morning. I cut out all caffeine for 3 months. No baby.
Hmm, what else? I’ve tried Vitamin B. Soy Isoflavones. Pretending I wasn’t trying. Sexing up my man. Not telling him that this was the time. Soaking my feet. Avoiding all diet products. Only drinking diet products. Drinking grapefruit juice. Taking my temperature every day and peeing on sticks for MONTHS (long after I’d used those tools to confirm ovulation and get to know my body).
So, what myth am I busting? I’m busting the myth that not getting pregnant has anything to do with minute lifestyle changes. We can all just quit beating ourselves up for having a coca cola, or a diet coke, or not liking grapefruits. Those things don’t get us pregnant. They’re just things that women make up to try to help themselves feel like they have control over a situation that we don’t, really, in the end, control. And, it’s so, so hard to let go of that myth. I wish with every part of me that all I needed was some foot soaking and dose of Geritol to get pregnant. That, I could do. Hell, I’d soak my feet, while eating grapefruit sprinkled with Geritol, Soy-Isoflavones, and Vitex, after/before having timed/”spontaneous” sex with my husband who did/didn’t know that I was ovulating, all with an OPK sitting beside me,a thermometer in my vag, and an hourly charting of my cervical mucous… if that would make this happen because I finally did it “right.”
So, the myth that us ladies aren’t doing the “right” things — busted. As Jay says over at The Two Week Wait, we need to let ourselves off the hook.
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