So, my new foray into foster-to-adoption land has lead me to realize that time moves at a very different rate in this situation than in others.
We had our final home study visit on March 17. We were told it’d take 4-6 weeks for all the stuff to be finalized, then we’d be officially done with the paperwork.
The family and friends that know about the adoption spend a good bit of time asking me “How’s the adoption going?” Most of the time, my answer is “Fine, I suppose. Nothing’s going on right at this moment.” I guess people are used to pregnancy… when a woman finds out she’s pregnant, life becomes a flurry of “next up is …” and markers that have meaning (trimesters and such).
For adoptive moms, we don’t really have those, so people, including me, don’t know what to say. How do you explain that someone, somewhere, is writing up a document about your ability to parent? Then, that document will be put into a computer somewhere and then some child(ren)’s similar document will be matched by a computer or a counselor, and THEN something will actually happen.
Until then, nothing’s going on.
In other news, one of my friends from Fer.tility Frie.nd (I used to be on there, but it made me sad. Literally, EVERYONE ELSE was getting pregnant), is going through her first IVF. She just went through retrieval and now I’m really hoping her embryos are growing and multiplying. She’s been on this boat for 4 years now… let’s hope she finally gets to shore!